What are you WHYning about today?
We all do it. We all find ourselves saying, "Why me?" or "Why did that happen again?" Some say the cure is to ask "Well, why NOT me?" I say we can probe deeper and make permanent changes. You see, I've noticed something.
The interesting thing about our complaints is that they tend to answer the very questions they ask.
Beliefs generate thought energy that attracts situations and circumstances that are in alignment with the belief. Whatever we believe, we speak aloud to others as statements—or as complaints. If the situation is favorable in our opinion, we proclaim it as a statement. But if the situation is not to our liking, we complain about it, and it usually comes out as a WHYne.
Here is an example of a standard WHYne:
Why does it always seem like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it?
Well... it's because this is what your belief IS!
Just remove the "why does" part and turn it into a sentence/statement, and the belief hidden within the complaint is revealed.
(Why does) it always seem like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it(?)
Becomes:
It always seem(s) like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it!
So why does it seem this way? Because it just does! Because YOU believe that it does.
What is the positive opposite of this belief? Well, there are a lot of options. One possibility is this:
It always seems like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to make it even better.
Or, you could try:
I'm so glad that I seem to be getting ahead now.
You could even go so far as to turn a positive opposite into a tongue-in-cheek WHYne, but with a positive aspect:
Why does it always seem so easy for me to get ahead?
I mean, if we're going to complain, at least we can get into the habit of complaining positively, right?
Change the belief that is hidden within the WHYne, and you will change your life. Now—what have YOU been WHYning about today?
**Podcast Update: It's coming! Life happened along with a few technical glitches, but stay tuned.***
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Do You Know Why Your Outcome Derailed?
I'd like to take an informal poll. Please post your answers in the comments.
I have the answer for you, and this is the only place you will find it presented in this much detail.
This information will be available in two formats:
- How long have you been studying the Law of Attraction?
- Do you understand the concepts of clearing limiting beliefs?
- Have you done the work of clearing your limiting beliefs through EFT, Ho'oponopono or other methods?
- Do you feel completely clear before you set your intention?
- Have you had any success manifesting small, unimportant things?
- How about bigger, more important things?
- Have you noticed a difference between the ease of manifesting smaller, less important things versus manifesting bigger, more important things?
- Do you seem to have more difficulty manifesting the bigger, more important things, despite having a strong intention, all the right affirmations and language, and being completely clear?
- Do you have any idea why the bigger, more important outcomes are more challenging?
- Do you have issues with doubts and fears that arise between the time after you set the intention and before the outcome manifests?
I have the answer for you, and this is the only place you will find it presented in this much detail.
This information will be available in two formats:
- I'll be posting my first hour-long Podcast for download very soon
- I'm finishing up my first eBook, Navigating the Gap. This will contain the transcript of the Podcast, but will be an expanded version of the topic being discussed
Monday, June 8, 2009
No More Pursuit
I am no longer pursuing my dreams.
Before you all freak out on me... Let me explain.
Something rose up in my attention today about the word “pursuit”. I actually wrote about 17 pages in my journal exploring it. But here’s what I’d invite you to do: get a dictionary. Look up these words, and note the definitions. I got mine from Word’s Encarta Dictionary.
I researched these and a few others and I realized a few things.
One definition of Pursuit is: to make the effort to try to achieve something.
OK. Read that slowly. To make the EFFORT to try... to achieve something.
You mean, “to try to try”? Wow. What is wrong with THAT statement?
It’s bad enough when someone says, “I’m trying to do this...” but to say “I’m trying to TRY to do this” is so lame I can’t even think about it. There is no try, only do. At least if you’re trying, you have a better shot than if you’re pursuing (and only trying to TRY).
Dream is defined as something you hope, long or yearn for, but are unlikely to realize.
Hope, as you know, is akin to Wish and Want, which are words that really mean “I lack”.
So to pursue your dreams means...
Also, to pursue means to chase. You can chase something and never ever catch it. If you’re focused on the pursuit of something, you’re always behind it, always reaching for it, never quite connecting, never quite catching it. The thing remains elusive.
So now you have an elusive, hard-to-catch thing that you’re lacking in, and you’re TRYING to try to acquire it.
Talk about doomed!
After much research, I’ve decided I am no longer pursuing my dreams.
Instead, I am generating and nurturing my purpose and intention (of having a successful ________).
To generate or create means to bring something into existence.
To nurture means to provide tender care and protection; to encourage it to grow, develop, thrive, and succeed.
Purpose is defined as the reason for the existence of a thing; a goal or intention that one determines to accomplish conclusively.
Intention is defined similarly.
From now on, when someone asks me what I’ve been doing lately, I’ll tell them:
Doesn’t that sound and feel more determined?
Before you all freak out on me... Let me explain.
Something rose up in my attention today about the word “pursuit”. I actually wrote about 17 pages in my journal exploring it. But here’s what I’d invite you to do: get a dictionary. Look up these words, and note the definitions. I got mine from Word’s Encarta Dictionary.
- Pursuit
- Dream
- Generate (Create, Attain, Achieve, Accomplish, Nurture, Reach, Prosper, Succeed)
- Intention
- Purpose
I researched these and a few others and I realized a few things.
One definition of Pursuit is: to make the effort to try to achieve something.
OK. Read that slowly. To make the EFFORT to try... to achieve something.
You mean, “to try to try”? Wow. What is wrong with THAT statement?
It’s bad enough when someone says, “I’m trying to do this...” but to say “I’m trying to TRY to do this” is so lame I can’t even think about it. There is no try, only do. At least if you’re trying, you have a better shot than if you’re pursuing (and only trying to TRY).
Dream is defined as something you hope, long or yearn for, but are unlikely to realize.
Hope, as you know, is akin to Wish and Want, which are words that really mean “I lack”.
So to pursue your dreams means...
I’m trying to try to attain this thing that I lack and probably have no chance of ever attaining.
Also, to pursue means to chase. You can chase something and never ever catch it. If you’re focused on the pursuit of something, you’re always behind it, always reaching for it, never quite connecting, never quite catching it. The thing remains elusive.
So now you have an elusive, hard-to-catch thing that you’re lacking in, and you’re TRYING to try to acquire it.
Talk about doomed!
After much research, I’ve decided I am no longer pursuing my dreams.
Instead, I am generating and nurturing my purpose and intention (of having a successful ________).
To generate or create means to bring something into existence.
To nurture means to provide tender care and protection; to encourage it to grow, develop, thrive, and succeed.
Purpose is defined as the reason for the existence of a thing; a goal or intention that one determines to accomplish conclusively.
Intention is defined similarly.
From now on, when someone asks me what I’ve been doing lately, I’ll tell them:
I’m generating and nurturing my purpose and intention. I’m bringing into existence my purpose and intention to be a ______, and I’m providing it tender care and protection, and encouraging it to grow, develop, thrive and ultimately succeed at every phase along the way.
Doesn’t that sound and feel more determined?
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
More on Assumptions
I’ll say this: getting it straight in my head is quite the journey.
I’ve been thinking for weeks now how I need to “figure out how to hang on to stuff and get through this until I’m back on my feet again” meaning, how to cover the mortgage; how to cover/barter for board; how to triage the bills...
UNTIL I get back on my feet.
Note the word UNTIL.
What does it say to you? Until. As in, a while from now. Sometime down the road.
Focusing on the GAP between “now” (not on my feet) and “then” (back on my feet).
WHICH LEAVES ME FIRMLY WALLOWING IN THE DAMNED GAP.
I shouldn’t be focusing on how to ride out the gap UNTIL I’m back on my feet—I should have my focus on BEING back on my feet. PAST the gap.
I tell ya. It’s innocuous, this subconscious thing.
Good thing I'm becoming more aware of my thoughts and WHAT they are saying.
I’ve been thinking for weeks now how I need to “figure out how to hang on to stuff and get through this until I’m back on my feet again” meaning, how to cover the mortgage; how to cover/barter for board; how to triage the bills...
UNTIL I get back on my feet.
Note the word UNTIL.
What does it say to you? Until. As in, a while from now. Sometime down the road.
Focusing on the GAP between “now” (not on my feet) and “then” (back on my feet).
WHICH LEAVES ME FIRMLY WALLOWING IN THE DAMNED GAP.
I shouldn’t be focusing on how to ride out the gap UNTIL I’m back on my feet—I should have my focus on BEING back on my feet. PAST the gap.
I tell ya. It’s innocuous, this subconscious thing.
Good thing I'm becoming more aware of my thoughts and WHAT they are saying.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Assumptions
In the early morning "revelation" hours, I woke up after a really bizarre but good dream. As I came out of the dream, Brain (yes, I consider that to be its proper name) began working overtime trying to figure out, like usual, how to address the various situations in my life that need solutions, such as how to pay bills, how to pay for grad school, how to survive another month, and so on. Brain was working furiously to come up with yet another feasible possibility, when...
A Voice (which is likely God or my Higher Self) spoke up and drowned out Brain's worrisome chatter.
The Voice said:
“The problem isn’t that you need a job, or cheaper board, or even money to pay bills or go to grad school. In fact, these are just symptoms.”
Brain stopped "solutionizing" mid-thought.
My Conscious Self chimed in to the debate.
Oh? Symptoms? Of what? What IS the problem, then?
“The problem is that every solution and decision that you make is based on the assumption of continued poverty.”
Well, that stopped me short. I thought, well, duh, yeah, I mean, I gotta figure out how to survive until I’m flush again—
The Voice cut me off. “NO. Listen. YOU ASSUME POVERTY WILL CONTINUE.”
Uh, yeah, it probably will—for awhile, anyway...
“NO. You see? THAT’S THE PROBLEM RIGHT THERE.”
Huh?
“You are assuming that you’ll probably still be poor for awhile. So you are FOCUSING on the probability of being poor for a while longer.”
Oh for goodness’ sake.
The Voice is right.
Focus means manifestation; focus leads to actions that support the manifestation of that reality of probably being poor a while longer. DUH DUH DUH.
If every decision I’m seeking arises out of the assumption that it’s gonna be awhile before I can afford _________, then I’m attracting exactly that situation to myself!
I’ve been mulling this over and journalizing, exploring this concept in depth. As I thought about all the "problems" I've been facing, and all of the potential "solutions" that really aren't very good answers at all, it began to make sense.
I had already been creating this "probably poor awhile longer" situation, simply by assuming—or expecting—I'd still be in it.
The sticky part is, it's easy to maintain this assumption, when the circumstances around me seem to point in that direction. When I look at my bank balance, or the rejection letters from jobs to which I've applied (and not even being granted an interview before they decide I couldn't possibly have anything to offer them), the bills piling up, the unpaid things... it's very easy to see that should things continue this way, poverty is a given. With or without the added panic from the Media, who cry out about the state of the economy and housing market in such a fearful manner.
The Voice asked another question or two.
“How would your life change, if you lived under the assumption of wealth? Or assumed/expected that things are turning around? What would change in how you approached everything in your life?”
Wow.
I'd never thought of it that way. I came up with a whole list (which I won’t bore you with) of things that would change. It’s amazing how much different I would be living and thinking right now IF I assumed that it is all turning around, or rather WHEN I EXPECT that things are turning around and that there IS money and prosperity and success on its way to me now.
The point is, I must change my overall expectation from one of continuing poverty “for awhile” to one of renewed, impending, immediate prosperity and success.
That overall expectation is the foundation that drives and informs absolutely every single thought, action, and decision I make, and every solution I seek. Once I shift my overall expectation, everything changes in a trickle-down effect.
All my decisions, all the solutions I seek, every thought and action I have or make shifts to conform to my EXPECTATION. And I’ll get what I EXPECT to get.
One of these days, I’ll have this DOWN, baby. I will.
Once upon a time, I held the expectation of prosperity and success. I hadn't realized that the expectation had changed somewhere along the line to one of not expecting—rather, expecting the opposite of prosperity and success.
I'm not sure if I need to pinpoint when it changed and what caused it to change in order to change back. If I can rewind to a point before it shifted, reset my expectations to what they once were, and live in that mindset again, I'll be all right. But maybe all it takes is simply recognizing that there has been a negative shift, then shifting it back to positive.
And because miracles DO happen, I can expect things to fall into place for me right away—once I’ve adjusted it so I BELIEVE it is happening.
There is one question unanswered: Despite MY shift in expectations, there are still those who require explanations from me and specifics about WHEN I expect to discharge my debts, WHEN I plan to pay off that bill, WHEN I anticipate having money for X. They are less likely to accept the vague answer of "oh, soon—it's turning around, I can feel it, because I've shifted my overall expectation to one of prosperity and wealth." Mortgage companies want deadlines, realistic or not. Utility companies also want to know WHEN.
I'd love to be able to promise "when", and meet it... yet that little seed of doubt emerges and says, "But it depends on a lot of things falling miraculously into place—and you cannot predict when that is going to happen".
Hmm. Maybe THAT is the limiting belief preventing manifestation?
Thoughts?
A Voice (which is likely God or my Higher Self) spoke up and drowned out Brain's worrisome chatter.
The Voice said:
“The problem isn’t that you need a job, or cheaper board, or even money to pay bills or go to grad school. In fact, these are just symptoms.”
Brain stopped "solutionizing" mid-thought.
My Conscious Self chimed in to the debate.
Oh? Symptoms? Of what? What IS the problem, then?
“The problem is that every solution and decision that you make is based on the assumption of continued poverty.”
Well, that stopped me short. I thought, well, duh, yeah, I mean, I gotta figure out how to survive until I’m flush again—
The Voice cut me off. “NO. Listen. YOU ASSUME POVERTY WILL CONTINUE.”
Uh, yeah, it probably will—for awhile, anyway...
“NO. You see? THAT’S THE PROBLEM RIGHT THERE.”
Huh?
“You are assuming that you’ll probably still be poor for awhile. So you are FOCUSING on the probability of being poor for a while longer.”
Oh for goodness’ sake.
The Voice is right.
Focus means manifestation; focus leads to actions that support the manifestation of that reality of probably being poor a while longer. DUH DUH DUH.
If every decision I’m seeking arises out of the assumption that it’s gonna be awhile before I can afford _________, then I’m attracting exactly that situation to myself!
I’ve been mulling this over and journalizing, exploring this concept in depth. As I thought about all the "problems" I've been facing, and all of the potential "solutions" that really aren't very good answers at all, it began to make sense.
I had already been creating this "probably poor awhile longer" situation, simply by assuming—or expecting—I'd still be in it.
The sticky part is, it's easy to maintain this assumption, when the circumstances around me seem to point in that direction. When I look at my bank balance, or the rejection letters from jobs to which I've applied (and not even being granted an interview before they decide I couldn't possibly have anything to offer them), the bills piling up, the unpaid things... it's very easy to see that should things continue this way, poverty is a given. With or without the added panic from the Media, who cry out about the state of the economy and housing market in such a fearful manner.
The Voice asked another question or two.
“How would your life change, if you lived under the assumption of wealth? Or assumed/expected that things are turning around? What would change in how you approached everything in your life?”
Wow.
I'd never thought of it that way. I came up with a whole list (which I won’t bore you with) of things that would change. It’s amazing how much different I would be living and thinking right now IF I assumed that it is all turning around, or rather WHEN I EXPECT that things are turning around and that there IS money and prosperity and success on its way to me now.
The point is, I must change my overall expectation from one of continuing poverty “for awhile” to one of renewed, impending, immediate prosperity and success.
That overall expectation is the foundation that drives and informs absolutely every single thought, action, and decision I make, and every solution I seek. Once I shift my overall expectation, everything changes in a trickle-down effect.
All my decisions, all the solutions I seek, every thought and action I have or make shifts to conform to my EXPECTATION. And I’ll get what I EXPECT to get.
One of these days, I’ll have this DOWN, baby. I will.
Once upon a time, I held the expectation of prosperity and success. I hadn't realized that the expectation had changed somewhere along the line to one of not expecting—rather, expecting the opposite of prosperity and success.
I'm not sure if I need to pinpoint when it changed and what caused it to change in order to change back. If I can rewind to a point before it shifted, reset my expectations to what they once were, and live in that mindset again, I'll be all right. But maybe all it takes is simply recognizing that there has been a negative shift, then shifting it back to positive.
And because miracles DO happen, I can expect things to fall into place for me right away—once I’ve adjusted it so I BELIEVE it is happening.
There is one question unanswered: Despite MY shift in expectations, there are still those who require explanations from me and specifics about WHEN I expect to discharge my debts, WHEN I plan to pay off that bill, WHEN I anticipate having money for X. They are less likely to accept the vague answer of "oh, soon—it's turning around, I can feel it, because I've shifted my overall expectation to one of prosperity and wealth." Mortgage companies want deadlines, realistic or not. Utility companies also want to know WHEN.
I'd love to be able to promise "when", and meet it... yet that little seed of doubt emerges and says, "But it depends on a lot of things falling miraculously into place—and you cannot predict when that is going to happen".
Hmm. Maybe THAT is the limiting belief preventing manifestation?
Thoughts?
Thursday, April 2, 2009
Why Pray for Others, When I Need the Help?
Thought for the day:
"Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed."—James 5:16
Though I'm definitely New Thought, I'm comfortable listening to just about any Christian or Catholic minister/priest/pastor/teacher when they give a sermon, as long as they stick to Biblical principles and avoid straying off into denominational differences (such as is it or is it not a sin to dance, have long hair, and so on). Sometimes I watch Richard Roberts, other times Joel Osteen. I've found Father John Corapi is quite an inspiring speaker as well.
Last night, I was listening to Lindsay Roberts and she mentioned the verse above. She said she'd always misinterpreted it to mean, pray for others so that they would be healed; but that the true interpretation is pray for others so that YOU can be healed.
She related the story of a woman who was diagnosed with cancer. Instead of praying for herself, she immediately went round to all the hospitals, finding cancer patients, laying hands on them, and praying for THEIR healing. Not long afterward, the woman's cancer was declared gone.
Skeptics may scoff at this, but Law of Attractionists and spiritualists alike understand what happened here. It makes sense to me.
Like energy attracts like energy. Put out into the world the kind of energy you wish to attract back to you. Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
If you had been diagnosed with a terminal illness, what would you want others to do? Pray for you. Envision you in good health. Support you. Show love for you, from which you could gain strength. For starters.
Put out that energy... receive that energy. Pray for someone else who has the same affliction as you... attract back the kind of energy YOU need to solve your problems.
What if this was applied to, say, someone in a poverty situation? Or who is seeking employment? Or needs help with their relationship? Instead of criticizing, complaining and giving up on people, perhaps we would better serve them and ourselves by praying FOR them. Pray that everyone who needs a job finds a good one, soon. Pray that those in poverty experience the financial miracles they need to lift them out. And so on.
Do we need to go TO them to do this? I don't think so. I think it would be just as effective if the world's hungry and poor were included in our daily prayers; though it might have more of an impact to go directly TO people in situations like our own. We do not need to admit we share the affliction or condition. But we must be sure to treat them with respect and dignity—never as if we are somehow "better". Any one of us could find ourselves in a difficult position in a heartbeat. We must treat others currently having that experience as we would want to be treated.
Thoughts for the day.
"Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed."—James 5:16
Though I'm definitely New Thought, I'm comfortable listening to just about any Christian or Catholic minister/priest/pastor/teacher when they give a sermon, as long as they stick to Biblical principles and avoid straying off into denominational differences (such as is it or is it not a sin to dance, have long hair, and so on). Sometimes I watch Richard Roberts, other times Joel Osteen. I've found Father John Corapi is quite an inspiring speaker as well.
Last night, I was listening to Lindsay Roberts and she mentioned the verse above. She said she'd always misinterpreted it to mean, pray for others so that they would be healed; but that the true interpretation is pray for others so that YOU can be healed.
She related the story of a woman who was diagnosed with cancer. Instead of praying for herself, she immediately went round to all the hospitals, finding cancer patients, laying hands on them, and praying for THEIR healing. Not long afterward, the woman's cancer was declared gone.
Skeptics may scoff at this, but Law of Attractionists and spiritualists alike understand what happened here. It makes sense to me.
Like energy attracts like energy. Put out into the world the kind of energy you wish to attract back to you. Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
If you had been diagnosed with a terminal illness, what would you want others to do? Pray for you. Envision you in good health. Support you. Show love for you, from which you could gain strength. For starters.
Put out that energy... receive that energy. Pray for someone else who has the same affliction as you... attract back the kind of energy YOU need to solve your problems.
What if this was applied to, say, someone in a poverty situation? Or who is seeking employment? Or needs help with their relationship? Instead of criticizing, complaining and giving up on people, perhaps we would better serve them and ourselves by praying FOR them. Pray that everyone who needs a job finds a good one, soon. Pray that those in poverty experience the financial miracles they need to lift them out. And so on.
Do we need to go TO them to do this? I don't think so. I think it would be just as effective if the world's hungry and poor were included in our daily prayers; though it might have more of an impact to go directly TO people in situations like our own. We do not need to admit we share the affliction or condition. But we must be sure to treat them with respect and dignity—never as if we are somehow "better". Any one of us could find ourselves in a difficult position in a heartbeat. We must treat others currently having that experience as we would want to be treated.
Thoughts for the day.
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