Wednesday, September 23, 2009

What Are You WHYning About?

What are you WHYning about today?

We all do it. We all find ourselves saying, "Why me?" or "Why did that happen again?" Some say the cure is to ask "Well, why NOT me?" I say we can probe deeper and make permanent changes. You see, I've noticed something.

The interesting thing about our complaints is that they tend to answer the very questions they ask.

Beliefs generate thought energy that attracts situations and circumstances that are in alignment with the belief. Whatever we believe, we speak aloud to others as statements—or as complaints. If the situation is favorable in our opinion, we proclaim it as a statement. But if the situation is not to our liking, we complain about it, and it usually comes out as a WHYne.

Here is an example of a standard WHYne:

Why does it always seem like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it?

Well... it's because this is what your belief IS!

Just remove the "why does" part and turn it into a sentence/statement, and the belief hidden within the complaint is revealed.

(Why does) it always seem like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it(?)

Becomes:

It always seem(s) like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it!

So why does it seem this way? Because it just does! Because YOU believe that it does.

What is the positive opposite of this belief? Well, there are a lot of options. One possibility is this:

It always seems like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to make it even better.

Or, you could try:
I'm so glad that I seem to be getting ahead now.

You could even go so far as to turn a positive opposite into a tongue-in-cheek WHYne, but with a positive aspect:

Why does it always seem so easy for me to get ahead?

I mean, if we're going to complain, at least we can get into the habit of complaining positively, right?

Change the belief that is hidden within the WHYne, and you will change your life. Now—what have YOU been WHYning about today?

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