It seems that the more I dislike something, the more it persists and continues to show up in my life.
I've also realized I have a habit, when I like something, of becoming fully involved in it, almost obsessively for a time, then one day, the enthusiasm wanes. Once this occurs, I'm able to easily let it go—just drop it. Remove my hand, so to speak, and allow it to fall without emotion of any kind. OK, I'm done with that.
This doesn't mean I don't like it—just that I've gotten to a point where I have lost the intense emotional involvement with it that the novelty of newness brings with it. I've reached the saturation point of the event or interest. Obsession is similar to the desperation one feels when negative circumstances persist; only obsession can feel more likeable.
It seems the moment I'm able to reach this point, the more "normal" it becomes for my life, and the easier it is to keep it around. It shows up in my life without bidding, and I'm always quietly pleased, almost a bit blasé, to have it arrive again. Which it does. Consistently, without effort on my part.
The thought occurred to me today that to change my life, perhaps I either have to figure out a way to fully despise the desired life changes (so the conditions arrive and persist) OR fall fully and completely in love with the desired life changes to the obsession point. Then when they arrive, embrace them, obsess over them, throw myself into them headlong until I reach the saturation point and am able to let go.
Perhaps then they will settle in and BE.
Or...
Maybe it's about loving the Now. Loving what IS. Even if it isn't very lovable.
Maybe, if I were to have two full-time jobs (a concept that causes extreme cringing and a big NO to rise up), and if they were the kinds of jobs I would never love...
Maybe I should embrace them fully, and LOVE them. Maybe loving them to the saturation point will make it easier to drop them one day. Just, done. No longer need this in my life; now something better comes along.
Hmm.
I'm not sure I've quite figured out this one, but I feel like I'm on the verge of a breakthrough.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Friday, May 28, 2010
Minding the Gap
As everyone who has studied the Law of Attraction knows, there are certain steps required in the manifestation process:
I'm calling it Minding the Gap—the time between setting the intention/taking action steps and seeing the resulting manifestation.
This is a dangerous time in anyone's journey. Intentions are like missiles—we fire them off without knowing it, and they are already in progress. Then we set a conscious intention without being aware of the previously-set unconscious intentions we'd made before we knew better.
What happens is this. Let's say I am in the midst of awaiting the arrival of my consciously manifested result, and a completely different event occurs. My initial reaction?
Whoops! I tend to feel thrown off-course, and this is when I run the biggest risk of messing up. I think "Oh no, I made a mistake" or "Uh-oh, it doesn't look like it's going to work out after all!". This causes me to focus on the wrong outcome! I focus on the Oh No part.
What we focus on, expands, so the manifestation result shifts. Instead of focusing on the outcome I prefer, I allow my focus to shift to the outcome I didn't want and wasn't aware I'd called for. Then I get that outcome, and think the LOA doesn't work.
Ah, but it DID. :-) I just wasn't expecting that outcome because I wasn't aware I was setting the intention to manifest it.
The trick is, when an unexpected event occurs or something happens that seems to be the opposite of the preferred outcome, take it as a sign that your preferred outcome is on its way.
Why? Because manifestations, like intention-setting, happen in sequence. I'd unconsciously set an intention, and it manifested; since I'd set a conscious intention in between, this means my conscious manifestation is next in line!
No matter what happens, stay focused ONLY on your preferred outcome, knowing that anything random or unexpected that occurs between intention-setting and manifestation is just fallout from previous subconscious intentions, and the LOA WILL WORK for you. Every time.
- figuring out what you want
- figuring out what you don't want
- clearing limiting beliefs
- paying attention to the language we use when setting the intentions because the Universe does not interpret meaning and cannot process negatives (as in "I don't want to do this anymore"
- acting on the nudges the Universe provides us once we've set our intentions
- learning to let go of the "how"
I'm calling it Minding the Gap—the time between setting the intention/taking action steps and seeing the resulting manifestation.
This is a dangerous time in anyone's journey. Intentions are like missiles—we fire them off without knowing it, and they are already in progress. Then we set a conscious intention without being aware of the previously-set unconscious intentions we'd made before we knew better.
What happens is this. Let's say I am in the midst of awaiting the arrival of my consciously manifested result, and a completely different event occurs. My initial reaction?
Whoops! I tend to feel thrown off-course, and this is when I run the biggest risk of messing up. I think "Oh no, I made a mistake" or "Uh-oh, it doesn't look like it's going to work out after all!". This causes me to focus on the wrong outcome! I focus on the Oh No part.
What we focus on, expands, so the manifestation result shifts. Instead of focusing on the outcome I prefer, I allow my focus to shift to the outcome I didn't want and wasn't aware I'd called for. Then I get that outcome, and think the LOA doesn't work.
Ah, but it DID. :-) I just wasn't expecting that outcome because I wasn't aware I was setting the intention to manifest it.
The trick is, when an unexpected event occurs or something happens that seems to be the opposite of the preferred outcome, take it as a sign that your preferred outcome is on its way.
Why? Because manifestations, like intention-setting, happen in sequence. I'd unconsciously set an intention, and it manifested; since I'd set a conscious intention in between, this means my conscious manifestation is next in line!
No matter what happens, stay focused ONLY on your preferred outcome, knowing that anything random or unexpected that occurs between intention-setting and manifestation is just fallout from previous subconscious intentions, and the LOA WILL WORK for you. Every time.
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Word of the Year 2010
Christine Kane has a better idea for resolutions. Rather than preparing a long list of vague things to do, she suggests choosing one word to set the tone for the year, and to use as your intention for the year.
Last year, I chose Improvement. However, I didn't really follow through with focusing on the word throughout the year. Did I enjoy any improvements? Sure; but probably not as many as if I'd really focused on it.
This year is different. For the past several days, I've been writing down words trying to hone in on the ONE WORD that will lay the foundation for the changes I need most in my life, the changes that will propel me into the now that I wish to experience.
Several words are on the list: courage, brave, now, re/solved, focus... but none of them really hit home. I needed a word that encompassed every area that needs an overhaul: finances, clutter, decision-making, plans for my future, the path I'm on, removing obstacles—to name a few. How could one word sum up the change needed?
And then I found it.
CLEAR.
It's a verb, an adverb, a noun. The path can be clear. I can make clear decisions, have a crystal clear idea about my future. The clutter can be cleared. Clear sailing. Clear a lot of money in a deal. Clear, focused thinking. Joe Vitale talks about "clearing" limiting beliefs before setting intentions. Clear has so many variations, and they all apply to my life.
I looked it up on dictionary.com, and the definitions are astounding. Too lengthy to post here—if you're curious, here's the link to the entry.
Yes. My word for 2010 is CLEAR. It's the clear choice.
Last year, I chose Improvement. However, I didn't really follow through with focusing on the word throughout the year. Did I enjoy any improvements? Sure; but probably not as many as if I'd really focused on it.
This year is different. For the past several days, I've been writing down words trying to hone in on the ONE WORD that will lay the foundation for the changes I need most in my life, the changes that will propel me into the now that I wish to experience.
Several words are on the list: courage, brave, now, re/solved, focus... but none of them really hit home. I needed a word that encompassed every area that needs an overhaul: finances, clutter, decision-making, plans for my future, the path I'm on, removing obstacles—to name a few. How could one word sum up the change needed?
And then I found it.
CLEAR.
It's a verb, an adverb, a noun. The path can be clear. I can make clear decisions, have a crystal clear idea about my future. The clutter can be cleared. Clear sailing. Clear a lot of money in a deal. Clear, focused thinking. Joe Vitale talks about "clearing" limiting beliefs before setting intentions. Clear has so many variations, and they all apply to my life.
I looked it up on dictionary.com, and the definitions are astounding. Too lengthy to post here—if you're curious, here's the link to the entry.
Yes. My word for 2010 is CLEAR. It's the clear choice.
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
What Are You WHYning About?
What are you WHYning about today?
We all do it. We all find ourselves saying, "Why me?" or "Why did that happen again?" Some say the cure is to ask "Well, why NOT me?" I say we can probe deeper and make permanent changes. You see, I've noticed something.
The interesting thing about our complaints is that they tend to answer the very questions they ask.
Beliefs generate thought energy that attracts situations and circumstances that are in alignment with the belief. Whatever we believe, we speak aloud to others as statements—or as complaints. If the situation is favorable in our opinion, we proclaim it as a statement. But if the situation is not to our liking, we complain about it, and it usually comes out as a WHYne.
Here is an example of a standard WHYne:
Why does it always seem like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it?
Well... it's because this is what your belief IS!
Just remove the "why does" part and turn it into a sentence/statement, and the belief hidden within the complaint is revealed.
(Why does) it always seem like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it(?)
Becomes:
It always seem(s) like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it!
So why does it seem this way? Because it just does! Because YOU believe that it does.
What is the positive opposite of this belief? Well, there are a lot of options. One possibility is this:
It always seems like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to make it even better.
Or, you could try:
I'm so glad that I seem to be getting ahead now.
You could even go so far as to turn a positive opposite into a tongue-in-cheek WHYne, but with a positive aspect:
Why does it always seem so easy for me to get ahead?
I mean, if we're going to complain, at least we can get into the habit of complaining positively, right?
Change the belief that is hidden within the WHYne, and you will change your life. Now—what have YOU been WHYning about today?
**Podcast Update: It's coming! Life happened along with a few technical glitches, but stay tuned.***
We all do it. We all find ourselves saying, "Why me?" or "Why did that happen again?" Some say the cure is to ask "Well, why NOT me?" I say we can probe deeper and make permanent changes. You see, I've noticed something.
The interesting thing about our complaints is that they tend to answer the very questions they ask.
Beliefs generate thought energy that attracts situations and circumstances that are in alignment with the belief. Whatever we believe, we speak aloud to others as statements—or as complaints. If the situation is favorable in our opinion, we proclaim it as a statement. But if the situation is not to our liking, we complain about it, and it usually comes out as a WHYne.
Here is an example of a standard WHYne:
Why does it always seem like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it?
Well... it's because this is what your belief IS!
Just remove the "why does" part and turn it into a sentence/statement, and the belief hidden within the complaint is revealed.
(Why does) it always seem like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it(?)
Becomes:
It always seem(s) like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to undo it!
So why does it seem this way? Because it just does! Because YOU believe that it does.
What is the positive opposite of this belief? Well, there are a lot of options. One possibility is this:
It always seems like every time I get close to getting ahead, something comes along to make it even better.
Or, you could try:
I'm so glad that I seem to be getting ahead now.
You could even go so far as to turn a positive opposite into a tongue-in-cheek WHYne, but with a positive aspect:
Why does it always seem so easy for me to get ahead?
I mean, if we're going to complain, at least we can get into the habit of complaining positively, right?
Change the belief that is hidden within the WHYne, and you will change your life. Now—what have YOU been WHYning about today?
**Podcast Update: It's coming! Life happened along with a few technical glitches, but stay tuned.***
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Friday, July 17, 2009
Do You Know Why Your Outcome Derailed?
I'd like to take an informal poll. Please post your answers in the comments.
I have the answer for you, and this is the only place you will find it presented in this much detail.
This information will be available in two formats:
- How long have you been studying the Law of Attraction?
- Do you understand the concepts of clearing limiting beliefs?
- Have you done the work of clearing your limiting beliefs through EFT, Ho'oponopono or other methods?
- Do you feel completely clear before you set your intention?
- Have you had any success manifesting small, unimportant things?
- How about bigger, more important things?
- Have you noticed a difference between the ease of manifesting smaller, less important things versus manifesting bigger, more important things?
- Do you seem to have more difficulty manifesting the bigger, more important things, despite having a strong intention, all the right affirmations and language, and being completely clear?
- Do you have any idea why the bigger, more important outcomes are more challenging?
- Do you have issues with doubts and fears that arise between the time after you set the intention and before the outcome manifests?
I have the answer for you, and this is the only place you will find it presented in this much detail.
This information will be available in two formats:
- I'll be posting my first hour-long Podcast for download very soon
- I'm finishing up my first eBook, Navigating the Gap. This will contain the transcript of the Podcast, but will be an expanded version of the topic being discussed
Monday, June 8, 2009
No More Pursuit
I am no longer pursuing my dreams.
Before you all freak out on me... Let me explain.
Something rose up in my attention today about the word “pursuit”. I actually wrote about 17 pages in my journal exploring it. But here’s what I’d invite you to do: get a dictionary. Look up these words, and note the definitions. I got mine from Word’s Encarta Dictionary.
I researched these and a few others and I realized a few things.
One definition of Pursuit is: to make the effort to try to achieve something.
OK. Read that slowly. To make the EFFORT to try... to achieve something.
You mean, “to try to try”? Wow. What is wrong with THAT statement?
It’s bad enough when someone says, “I’m trying to do this...” but to say “I’m trying to TRY to do this” is so lame I can’t even think about it. There is no try, only do. At least if you’re trying, you have a better shot than if you’re pursuing (and only trying to TRY).
Dream is defined as something you hope, long or yearn for, but are unlikely to realize.
Hope, as you know, is akin to Wish and Want, which are words that really mean “I lack”.
So to pursue your dreams means...
Also, to pursue means to chase. You can chase something and never ever catch it. If you’re focused on the pursuit of something, you’re always behind it, always reaching for it, never quite connecting, never quite catching it. The thing remains elusive.
So now you have an elusive, hard-to-catch thing that you’re lacking in, and you’re TRYING to try to acquire it.
Talk about doomed!
After much research, I’ve decided I am no longer pursuing my dreams.
Instead, I am generating and nurturing my purpose and intention (of having a successful ________).
To generate or create means to bring something into existence.
To nurture means to provide tender care and protection; to encourage it to grow, develop, thrive, and succeed.
Purpose is defined as the reason for the existence of a thing; a goal or intention that one determines to accomplish conclusively.
Intention is defined similarly.
From now on, when someone asks me what I’ve been doing lately, I’ll tell them:
Doesn’t that sound and feel more determined?
Before you all freak out on me... Let me explain.
Something rose up in my attention today about the word “pursuit”. I actually wrote about 17 pages in my journal exploring it. But here’s what I’d invite you to do: get a dictionary. Look up these words, and note the definitions. I got mine from Word’s Encarta Dictionary.
- Pursuit
- Dream
- Generate (Create, Attain, Achieve, Accomplish, Nurture, Reach, Prosper, Succeed)
- Intention
- Purpose
I researched these and a few others and I realized a few things.
One definition of Pursuit is: to make the effort to try to achieve something.
OK. Read that slowly. To make the EFFORT to try... to achieve something.
You mean, “to try to try”? Wow. What is wrong with THAT statement?
It’s bad enough when someone says, “I’m trying to do this...” but to say “I’m trying to TRY to do this” is so lame I can’t even think about it. There is no try, only do. At least if you’re trying, you have a better shot than if you’re pursuing (and only trying to TRY).
Dream is defined as something you hope, long or yearn for, but are unlikely to realize.
Hope, as you know, is akin to Wish and Want, which are words that really mean “I lack”.
So to pursue your dreams means...
I’m trying to try to attain this thing that I lack and probably have no chance of ever attaining.
Also, to pursue means to chase. You can chase something and never ever catch it. If you’re focused on the pursuit of something, you’re always behind it, always reaching for it, never quite connecting, never quite catching it. The thing remains elusive.
So now you have an elusive, hard-to-catch thing that you’re lacking in, and you’re TRYING to try to acquire it.
Talk about doomed!
After much research, I’ve decided I am no longer pursuing my dreams.
Instead, I am generating and nurturing my purpose and intention (of having a successful ________).
To generate or create means to bring something into existence.
To nurture means to provide tender care and protection; to encourage it to grow, develop, thrive, and succeed.
Purpose is defined as the reason for the existence of a thing; a goal or intention that one determines to accomplish conclusively.
Intention is defined similarly.
From now on, when someone asks me what I’ve been doing lately, I’ll tell them:
I’m generating and nurturing my purpose and intention. I’m bringing into existence my purpose and intention to be a ______, and I’m providing it tender care and protection, and encouraging it to grow, develop, thrive and ultimately succeed at every phase along the way.
Doesn’t that sound and feel more determined?
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